Parents to Supreme Court: Let parents go to court before state takes their children
WASHINGTON – Becket filed a friend-of-the-court brief yesterday urging the Supreme Court to open the courthouse doors before the government can tear religious families apart. In International Partners for Ethical Care v. Ferguson, Washington state is requiring youth shelters to hide runaway children’s whereabouts from parents when they seek a “gender transition.” A group of parents sued, but lower courts ruled that the threatened harm to their rights was not immediate enough, even as the law is already reshaping how parents raise their own children.
Becket filed the brief on behalf of Mary and Jeremy Cox, a Catholic couple who know firsthand the heartbreak of having the government take away their child. Their son was removed from their home after they would not refer to him using pronouns and a name inconsistent with his biological sex. The Coxes sued, but procedural hurdles kept them from getting a real chance to vindicate their parental rights in court. Although the state soon determined that Mary and Jeremy were fit parents, and the allegations against them were unsubstantiated, their son was never returned home before becoming a legal adult. Their experience shows why parents must be able to defend their rights in court before government intervention tears their family apart for good.
“We love our son, and we can never get back the years we lost with him or undo the damage that was done to our family,” said Mary and Jeremy Cox. “What we can do is tell our story so that others won’t have to endure the nightmare we did. We pray the Supreme Court will make sure parents like us can get into court to defend their families before it’s too late.”
For decades, Washington state required shelters to quickly notify parents when a runaway child arrived, including telling them where their child was. An exception allowed shelters to withhold that information if the parents were abusive. In 2023, Washington expanded that exception to runaway children seeking what Washington calls “gender-affirming care,” even when there are no allegations of abuse or neglect. In those cases, youth shelters must withhold the child’s whereabouts from the parents and notify the state instead. Officials can then steer the child toward services that support that transition and delay the child’s return home with no set deadline, which turns a shelter stay into a state-directed separation.
“This is America in 2026, not the Soviet Union in 1937,” said Lori Windham, vice president and senior counsel at Becket. “State officials don’t get to steal children away from loving parents because they disapprove of their beliefs. And parents shouldn’t have to wait until their family is torn apart before they can defend their constitutional rights in court. We’re hopeful the Court will make that crystal clear in this case.”
Washington is now treating loving and fit parents the same as neglectful or abusive parents simply because the state disagrees with their beliefs about human sexuality and gender. Becket is asking the Supreme Court to ensure that parents must be able to go to court before the government inflicts that kind of lasting harm the Cox family endured.
The Supreme Court will hear the case on December 7. The Coxes are represented by Becket, together with attorney Joshua Hershberger in Madison, Indiana.
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